The First Few Weeks
A Survival Guide to Being Widowed Young
Unfortunately, there’s no guidebook for grief. Everyone is different and no two people will experience grieving in the same way.
You may be eligible to claim bereavement benefits after your partner has died.
Funerals and Memorials
Planning the funeral will no doubt take up a lot of time and energy in the first days or weeks after your partner’s death.
You may decide that you would like to hold a memorial service to celebrate the life of your partner and to honour their memory.
Life After Death
Getting Back Out Into the Real World
In the first few weeks and months of bereavement, you’ll probably feel like avoiding social occasions. Much though you might want to, you can’t hide away forever.
Returning to work after bereavement
Although you won’t want colleagues to pretend that nothing has happened, often a warm smile or a hug is enough to know that people are thinking about you, rather than facing a barrage of well-meaning questions.
What to Do About Holidays
Holidays can be a fraught time when you've lost your partner. Whereas overseas trips were once a relaxing time that you used to plan and enjoy together, now you are faced with the bleak prospect of organising a holiday on your own.
Surviving Weddings and Special Events
Often the most difficult days to get through are significant dates that you used to celebrate, but now you’d probably rather forget - birthdays, wedding anniversaries, Christmas.
Supporting a Loved One
What To Say
Here are some tips about good things to say (or not to say) to someone who’s been recently bereaved.
Supporting Children with loss
WAY member and ex-primary school deputy headteacher Emma Marfleet shares her story and how she is helping her children maintain an ongoing relationship with their Dad after his death.
Talking To Children
Telling your child that their mum or dad has died is probably one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do.
Specific Resource Support
You don't have to face widowhood alone – join over 3,500 other young widowed people across England, Scotland, Northern Ireland and Wales who ‘get it’.
If you've lost your partner before your 51st birthday and live in the UK – whether you were married or not, with or without children, whatever your sexual orientation, race or religion – you are welcome to join us.
Joining up to WAY takes just minutes via online and costs just £25 a year, which can be paid either by direct debit or PayPal.
Time to renew?
If your annual WAY membership is up for renewal all you need to do is log in to your member account on the website, and renewing your membership is quick and easy via our online payment system.
To continue attending local events and holidays, receiving WAY magazines and email newsletters, and getting access to our members only web community, you need to keep your £25 annual membership up to date.
Financial support for your membership
We are well aware that, as a result of bereavement and its consequences, many people can struggle financially.
The WAY Memorial Fund has been established to support our members who may need help to enjoy the benefits of membership. Currently there are funds available to assist members in both the payment of their annual membership fees and to attend WAY-organised events in the UK.
If you, or a member you know, would like to apply for assistance please apply here.
All applications will be treated in the strictest confidence.
Age 51 or over?
Our constitution limits us from enabling those aged 51 or over at the time of their bereavement from joining WAY. You are still able to join, and remain a WAY member, past your 51st birthday if you were bereaved before then.
If you are age 51 or over, we strongly encourage you to join WAY Up, a lively group of widowed men and women that is flourishing across the UK.
Most WAY Up members are aged 52-65 and they offer each other support and friendship on their forum, as well as holding gatherings and parties that are becoming the stuff of legend.
Read our full list of frequently asked questions about WAY and becoming a member.
“WAY offers a world of people walking the same path as you, who show compassion, support and understanding! Simply a lifeline that cannot be found anywhere else. The best £25 I have ever spent.”Paula