Tips on talking to your child about a new relationship after the death of a parent

February 2026

As a widowed parent there may come a time when you would like to start dating again and would like to introduce your new partner to your children. This is a daunting situation for everyone – you, your child and your new partner. Our friends at the child bereavement charity Winston’s Wish have shared some guidance. 

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Starting to date again after your partner has died is a very personal decision. There is no right or wrong time to start dating or right or wrong way to feel about it. There are also a number of unique challenges you might face as a widowed parent – including how to talk to your children about the prospect of dating again or about a potential new partner. 

Think about the right time to introduce your new partner to your family

Only you can decide when the right time is to introduce a new partner into your family as a widowed parent. One thing to consider is whether you think this new relationship is significant enough to involve your child. They have experienced a very significant loss with the death of their parent and may be guarded when building a relationship with another potential parental figure. 

There may be things you can do to gradually introduce the new partner into their life, so that the transition feels easier for them. For example, an initial first meeting in the park for an hour or so may be far less intimidating than spending a whole weekend together.

Understand and acknowledge your child’s feelings

Your child will probably feel lots of complicated emotions – including fear, anger and confusion – as this new person comes into their life. They may see them as a threat to the bond they have with you, their surviving parent, and worry they might ‘lose’ you. They might be afraid of forming a bond with another person that could end or they might struggle seeing you with someone else and having to share you. 

Make sure you acknowledge your child’s feelings and let them know that it’s okay to feel however they feel. It can also help to share your own feelings as this can encourage them to do the same. 

Have open conversations with your child about your new relationship

The most important thing is open communication. Being able to tell your child what is happening and how you feel will encourage them to do the same. 

Talking to your child about why you may want to spend time with a new partner can help them understand that they are incredibly important but that your needs are also important. 

Try to be clear with your child that your new partner is not a replacement for their parent who has died but that they are someone who you care about a great deal and you would like to be a part of all your lives. Reassure them that finding a new partner won’t change the love you had for their mum or dad – or the love you have for your child or children.

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About Winston’s Wish

Winston’s Wish is a charity that helps children, teenagers and young adults (up to the age of 25) find their feet when their worlds are turned upside down by grief. 

If you’re an adult supporting a bereaved child or young person who is struggling with their grief, you can call Winston’s Wish on 08088 020 021, email ask@winstonswish.org or use the live chat on their website (all available 8am-8pm, weekdays). They will be able to offer guidance, information and support.